..is that, in the end, you're destined to pass on...

for those not in the loop, my grandma passed away on Saturday, 02 August, 2008. She was warded to TTSH on early Friday morning, with respiratory problems. She was then put on respirator, but her conditioned weaken as the day goes on; fearing for the worst, my dad booked an early sunday morning flight (00:10H) flight back. She passed on 11:56pm, saturday... my dad didn't get to see her...

On the Saturday itself, i visited her with my mother in the morning... at that time, her situation wasn't very good already... then after that i went down to my dear dear shan's place, then we proceeded to Tampines for a viewing. We then meet her batch-girls for dinner...

When we finally went to visit my grandma, it was 11+ in the nite... a few relatives were there... i brought my dear dear to see my grandma... when we left, it was already 11.30pm. My uncle stayed the nite to watch over her.

We had left the hospital and sent my sis back to school; was on the way home when my uncle called; i took the call and the sad news. We then re-routed to the hospital.

My mom was saying, perhaps she was holding out till i brought my dear dear to see her... after all i am the eldest grandson, perhaps she was concerned about my future, but seeing that i finally have a girlfriend, she could rest easy....

When we returned to the hospital, she was off the respirator... and silent... no sounds, no signs of breathing... but she look like she's sleeping... the sight will remain burned into memory.

When we finally completed all the paperwork and the basic arrangements for the funeral was done, it was already 2am. We all went home to rest; woke up at 4+am to accompany my mom to fetch my dad from the airport...

When we broke the news to my dad, he managed to take it quite well, but i can imagine how sad he feels inside..... then we went home to get watever rest we could...

Sunday came, and the decision was made for the funeral to be held at my place. Arrangements were made, and the 4 days of mourning started.

These 4 days were tiring... entertaining guests (special mention to my colleages, and especially Claire! Living west side, come to north-east! My thanks dear sis!), holding the nite vigil, prayers, etc.

During these days, my dear dear shan came down for 3 nights, helping watever way she can, giving support to me and my family... thanks dear dear!

Today, friday, was the cremation.

The sight of the casket entering the furnace was heart-renching...to see a life gone...

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